Recognizing Your Own Value

Hi guys (and girls I notice who are now reading my blog. Superb!)

It’s always longer than I would like between posts and so again I would like to apologise. Let’s just say that I’ve had more time to prepare and make it really juicy. Cheers to that!! I’m very passionate about human behaviour and what makes us tick. I would like to discuss it here in this post and hopefully get you thinking.

I am particularly interested in the social side of things and specifically what it is that results in people becoming popular, well liked and respected. It’s apparent to me that the man who masters this part of his life will be well on his way to succeeding with women. Why the two go hand in hand is a detailed topic on its own and best left for another post, but trust me when I tell you that the two are closely related.

When we seek out social alliances we are always searching for people who will ultimately enrich our lives. This could be somebody who can help us to make more money, increase our social status or simply make us feel good. This much is a given. We are somewhat selfish in our motives in choosing who to spend our time with. This can be a good thing though… Especially when this is a healthy alliance where both parties are benefiting. Where things tend to go pair shaped is when one person is seeking the company of another but in turn is not offering anything themselves. Perhaps a common situation where this occurs would be a guy trying to pick up a girl. He is doing everything to get her interested but failing to offer anything of real value. And this is what I want to hit on. VALUE.

This is definitely an issue that occurs often, but and here is the big BUT, it’s not always the fault of the guy who does this. It’s not that he doesn’t have value, but rather he fails to recognise his value and communicate it. This is something major that’s missing with a lot of guys. They don’t feel like they are offering something of value to the girl. They work under the FALSE premise that this is a one sided thing and that trying to pick her up is only benefiting him. Operating like this causes lots of self sabotaging behaviours. A guy doesn’t think he is offering anything of value and so he doesn’t come across as valuable.

It’s like in selling where a salesman is trying to sell a product or service but doesn’t really believe it’s a good deal for the customer. It’s a one sided thing and the salesman is just trying to get something for nothing. (In this case the commission.) He doesn’t really believe that the prospect will benefit and so has a weak intent in trying to convince them to buy. The prospect picks up on this and feels uncomfortable. Think of this in terms of the girl your interacting with. You’re trying to move things forward with her but you doubt you’re a good catch. She feels this doubt and backs away.

This is where a lot of inner work and preparation is needed so that you recognise that when it comes to meeting women that you do have value and she is also benefiting. When you get to the point of realizing that you are adding value to her life when you meet, you will come across very differently in your interactions. Women will pick up on this and in turn seek to have you in their company. Remember, because human beings are all looking for something of value. 

It’s vital that you get to the point where you see yourself as an equal part of the deal and it’s not just about getting something for nothing. You are adding value and the woman is benefiting. True healthy alliances are always a two way street where both parties are receiving something in return. Before this can occur, personal value must be recognised by EACH individual so it can be expressed and accepted.

If you would like to find our more about this and where to begin. ‘Day Game Dating’ offers Private Coaching specifically tailored to suit your needs and fast track your improvement. Feel free to contact us.

Talk to you soon,

Colin Dubb

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