This is a blog with articles concerned with helping men to increase their attractiveness to women and become effective in approaching, dating and creating connections. I don’t get into the topic of relationships very often but I have come to realise that if true mastery over this part of your life is to be attained… At some point an emotional shift needs to occur and the external techniques that are used to pick up women must evolve.

Human beings (men and women) are emotional creatures and thrive on connections. If you are closed off in this area and internally fear intimacy and vulnerability that comes with relationships… You will never achieve the ability to effectively generate casual interactions and turn them into connections. Yes guys, you need that ability to connect with women if you desire them in your life.

Do you think that an emotional connection does not occur with your male friends, that something deeper then just causal banter and interaction is created? Like men and women, if you are after connection with another individual, sexual or not… You must be open in this part of your life and demonstrate connect-ability.

As dating coaches at Day Game Dating we see this all the time. Guys that struggle with women and are emotionally closed. They want the techniques, the fancy pick up lines to generate affection but are not able to offer it first. If you are not open, if their are emotional blockages and deep fears of intimacy and vulnerability, then ultimately you will struggle in this area of life.

The first thing to realise is that their is nothing innate wrong with you, that you are not born to fail with women and not have your desired success. We are all built to have connections, to create relationships and you are no different. It is just at this point in time you are most likely closed off in this area and ultimately work against yourself. It may seem strange, on one hand you desire women in your life but with the other you sabotage all opportunities.

Of course there is an art, that certain skills can be learned and applied to generating better interactions and attraction with women, but this should be seen as the icing on the cake, the final levels of true self development. It is the internal parts of oneself that should be worked on to improve the probability of success and when you truly work on yourself and clear out baggage while healing old wounds… Combined with our systems and strategies for picking up women. You are guaranteed to fly!

Life is to short to be unhappy, to be lonely and emotionally unfulfilled. Up until now, if you are struggling to meet and attract women and you just don’t seem to be able to work it out…You have a Life line. Day Game Dating has coached hundreds of clients since 2006 in getting their dating lives sorted. You can take advantage of our skills and experience. Check out our website www.daygamedating.com.au and book a coaching session today.

Want to know more about what we do? 

visit the official website: www.daygamedating.com.au

Due to and influx of clients joining our dating bootcamps we found that spots were filling up fast. As a solution to this we have now decided to run more courses closer to each other. You can still take advantage of our competitive rates that we charge for dating coaching. Prices and upcoming events can all be found on the Day Game Dating website www.daygamedating.com.au

We are also offering a lot more private coaching options… To find out more, feel free to make an enquiry. Check this blog regularly and take advantage of the dating articles written as we cover topics such as self development and how to go about changing your life.

Below is also a little more information about Day Game Dating 
We coach clients that are in need of direction, guidance and support when it comes to meeting and attracting quality women (partners). We work all around Australia with individuals who are looking to attain higher levels of success when it comes to their love lives. Working together we improve your current situation by clarifying what is needed, setting goals & objectives, and then hitting the streets and taking MASSIVE action. We take a hands-on approach to coaching and specialise in areas such as improving personal magnetism, approaching women, communication, structure of courtship, cultivating relationships, and covering general principles needed to be more successful. Our coaching regimen involves live interactions with women, weekly meetings, telephone conferences, journal-writing, homework, progress reports, feedback and accountability. We specialise in the above areas while using certain principles and methodologies that have proven to be extremely effective upon application. Day Game Dating is very much looking forward to working with you to improve your skills in finding and connecting with a quality partner.

Want to know more about what we do?

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I thought I would write a little bit about something called a “learning curve”.

It’s always fascinated me how we as human beings learn and master new skills. The reason that I find this subject so interesting is mainly due to the fact that I myself love learning.

I believe that understanding about “learning curves” is extremely helpful to any person attempting to master something new… And improving your skills with women is no different.

When it comes to picking up women, most men want the pick-up lines and impressive moves. They believe that this is what’s needed to see them through. And that’s understandable… You don’t know what you don’t know.

Only when you get out there and really hit this hard, do you realize how much deeper this subject is. It becomes apparent that it’s not so much about the words and actions…It’s more about sorting out internal baggage and removing limiting beliefs.

At this point the work has begun and the first step to mastery with women taken. Be cautious though as noticeable improvement can be slow- especially during those early days… When you’re on a journey doing both doing the internal work and out in the field… Most of the time it can feel like you’re just not improving. This is normal!

When learning a new skill, there can be long periods of frustration and you feel like you just aren’t progressing. Hell, sometimes you even feel like you are going backwards and regressing.

Reading articles, keeping a journal and hanging out with like minded individuals can definitely help to speed up the process and minimise frustration.

When our client’s attend our programs, their confidence and skill level will spike due to the intense nature of the sessions.  But we know from experience that the road to mastery is ultimately a journey that is fuelled by strong desire, persistence and support. You need to stick at it and take advantage of any help offered along the way.

It’s a downside of human nature to want the results without putting in the effort. Most people want something for nothing.

Like everybody else, I also want things, financial freedom, success etc. At times I to have looked for shortcuts and immediate results. This has never lead me to my desired outcome. Its only when I began to realise that any worthwhile achievement takes time and ongoing effort, did I start to make progress.

Now when I make up my mind to achieve something, I plan carefully and take massive persistent action. This is the sure way to win!

• Do I get instant long-term results? Not usually.
• Does progress seem slow or non-existent? Yes, mostly during the early stages.
• Do I keep going forward regardless of challenges and setbacks? Always!!

When attempting to learn something new, master a skill and attain some type of success, it will seem like the whole world is against you… The more effort you seem to put in, the more setbacks occur.

“THIS IS THE TIME WHERE YOU’RE PERSISTENT NATURE AND DETERMINATION IS TESTED. DO YOU REALLY WANT IT BADLY ENOUGH AND ARE YOU WILLING TO WORK THROUGH AND FIND A WAY?”

The path to success can be slow and painful, but the rewards well worth it!

Remember this article in times of frustration and challenge… Always keep moving forward!

Talk to you soon.

Colin Dubb

Want to know more about what we do? 

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When out at a club I see it all the time. Guys that are able to cold approach women, get into interesting conversations and be in the situation where not only is he obviously attracted to her, but equally as important, she is attracted to him. What I see though is the guy failing to escalate. This is really common, I’ll explain…

Picking up women is really not rocket science. Men that are learning this stuff think that they have to be able to literally pull rabbits out of hats before they are allowed to have success. Its weird but they think that a pickup has to literally be a 5 star performance for it to go off well. This is just not true!

So what do I see in the club?
A guy has approached the girl, found himself in a positive interaction where attraction and chemistry are present, yet he feels that he has to continually be doing something, as in been on show and entertaining her. I can see that she is interested and waiting for him to escalate things to that next level; yet he is failing to see her interest, her green light because he feels that he has not done enough and unintentionally puts on the brakes. She is ready for him to move her to another part of the club, begin physical communication as in, hand holding, hugging, dancing and kissing, yet he simply remains in conversation, trying harder and harder to banter with her until he feels he has done enough to attract her.

Can you see the disconnect?
She likes him for him yet he can’t accept that and on some level believes that if she does like him it will be a result of his banter. Her attraction towards him happened quickly (attraction usually does), it was easy. In his mind though, picking up women has to be hard, he has to work for it, and so will not accept that he can escalate. She is ready for him to move forward but he cannot see it.

So what happens?
He continues with banter, failing to see the green light to move forward and the interaction becomes stale. She losses interest and he again feels that his ability is not up to scratch. “Oh well” he says to himself, “next time I’ll just try harder.”

Listen, just because you got onto the Internet and read about guys who are successful with women who do all of these out rages behaviours, does not mean that it is right! Unless you are out in the real world trying this stuff, as opposed to spending time reading… You will fail to realise  how easy picking up women really is.

When I get a new client, I always tell them to try and forget most of what they think they know. I do this because if a guy was generally getting high levels of success with women then he wouldn’t be on my program. A common theme is that he has read to much about pick up and believes that in order to be successful with women, he needs to effectively use many different tactics. And he sadly thinks that women cannot like him simply for him.

Look, before this whole pick up women thing became main stream, there were guys hooking up with girls. All they had was themselves and the desire to get out there and try. Sure there are techniques that can help you to further succeed while out in the field, and we teach these to clients, but ultimately you must realise that it’s you that a woman will be attracted to and not your tactics.

It’s very probably that if you go out often meeting women, a lot of times you will have her interest simply after you say “hallo” and she will like you right off the bat. In this case, it is time to escalate and not bog yourself down with pointless banter.

Get it?

Welcome to 2012

I would like to personally welcome you to 2012 and let you know that we are back into it. This is an exciting year and I would love you to join Day Game Dating for a pick up women Bootcamp Program. We are running our course all around Australia and have both Day-time and Night-time options (Day Game/Night Game).

Our courses would have to be the best out there when it comes to dating coaching for men. We have been operating since 2006 and have literally had 100′s of happy clients come through. The best place to begin is to get onto our FREE mailing list where you can also pick up a copy of my eBook The Five Vital Principles for Picking up Women. Follow the link below to get onto this list;

http://daygamedating.com.au/newsletter

Life is to short to be unhappy, to be lonely and emotionally unfulfilled. Up until now, if you are struggling to meet and attract women and you just don’t seem to be able to work it out…You have a Life line. Day Game Dating has coached hundreds of clients since 2006 in getting their dating lives sorted. You can take advantage of our skills and experience. Check out our website www.daygamedating.com.au and book a coaching session today.

Thanks for reading.

Colin Dubb

Want to know more about what we do? 

visit the official website: www.daygamedating.com.au

Internet Dating is becoming hugely popular in Australia. Companies like RSVP and Oasis Active are signing up 1000′s of new users per month.

Having experimented myself personally to get an idea of how it all works and spoken to many clients who have success in meeting women online… I have come to the conclusion that your profile combined with a good photo is paramount.

Here is a sample of a profile that works extremely well.

Don’t use it word for word, but take the important points out of it. Its flirty, funny, intriguing and catchy.

Enjoy,

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This is how I would be described…

I am ambitious, I set goals, I make my own luck and live life to the max! I make it happen! I am the kind of guy that you can take home to mum (in-fact mums always want to bake me cookies, don’t ask me why, I don’t know). If your dad met me he would ask me to be his son… (humour)

I just recently got out of a long-term relationship (I’m all good) and am ready to get back out there. I meet nice girls on the weekends, but I am after somebody really awesome. Thought I would ALSO try online dating. (social proof/standards)

I have a passion for cooking, travelling, and fast cars I also crave adventure, trying new things and really pushing the limits. I have to admit I am a bit of a wild ride at times (in a good way though). Just don’t try to tame me – too much.. (challange)

So a girl who loves adventure, holidays, cooking (& eating) and drives a fast car and wants the best out of life….We should chat, Ok I don’t mind your Toyota Yaris either… (cute)

So If you’re: (I’m a bit picky, sorry)
Blond or Brunette
Size 8 – 12
Have some sort of degree (education is sexy)
And have not done anything to bad like robbed a bank (unless it was Commonwealth).

And you want to meet a young, adventurous, self determined and unique guy that will rock your world!!!

YOU FEEL CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF, DONT TAKE LIFE TO SERIOUSLY AND WONDER IF IT IS POSSIBLT TO MEET GREAT GUYS ON RSVP>> (I believe I am one)

Let’s chat
Definitely!

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By the way, ‘Day Game Dating’ runs a FREE newsletter that goes even further into the topics of effective dating and includes real life stories of men who have been out in the field meeting women. I even answer the majority of questions posed and help with certain sticking points. Again you can have access to it all, and it’s free!

If you have not yet joined up then I would urge you to do so. All you need is an email address which we promise to NEVER share with anyone. Oh, and anytime you decide that you have figured this stuff out and you don’t need our help anymore – You can simply unsubscribe. It just takes a click.

Get on the list by following this link:

http://daygamedating.com.au/newsletter

Of course we also hold regular dating workshops and bootcamps and offer a full range of private coaching options. This can all be found on the website.

Talk to you soon,

Colin Dubb

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When you learn how to meet women there are more pieces to fit into the puzzle. Connection is vital and I will talk a bit about it.

BTW, thank you for reading the articles on the Day Game Dating Blog. I spend a lot of time researching the topic of dating and how to help my clients to meet and attract women. When I say women, I am talking about the really great ones! Beautiful on the outside, but more importantly, beautiful on the inside, a true GEM! But in order to meet this quality girl, you must become a quality man. It’s like attract like. The old saying of “birds of a feather flock together” hold very true in dating and relationships.

Lets get into connection

Connection as in we need to feel a certain pull between the two of us when a man meets a woman. It should not have much conscious effort either. An analogy would be two magnets that are drawn to each other. We should both feel a mutual connection to each other regardless of physical attractiveness.

There is a complete difference between learning external skills to meet women, interest them, and create attraction as opposed to actual  connection. Without  connection it probably won’t happen. Connection is the vital sticking point for most couples when it comes to dating and relationships. It begins with connection and ends with connection.

As you and the girl are interacting connection must build.  If you doubt yourself, do not see yourself as worthy and capable, then this will get triggered into self doubt during your interactions and connection will be severed. This is why it is vital to work on your inner-self  (I talk a lot about this in my book Day Game to Girlfriend and previous blog posts).

Again, at any point if feelings of unworthiness and lack of ability get triggered during your interactions with women then connection will be severed! You will go into fight or flight mode, either backing off and ending the interaction early or going into overcompensating behavior by trying to grab and force it.

Either response will break the connection as your vibe and energy shift. You close off and lose that lovely stream of connection that the two of you were experiencing. By the way, women can do this to so don’t always take it personally. Experience will show you that men are not the only gender with issues relating to the opposite sex. But let’s worry about you for now!

You need to have all deserving issues and inferior complexes sorted before success can occur. The work around this is in working on beliefs, self- image, and reality. Possibly even healing yourself in relationship might be necessary if you have been wounded in relationship as a child. Therapy is the only way to really deal with this and should be utilized!

When you utilize the services of our company for the purposes of enhancing your attractiveness to women and you look to sort out this part of your life… This is a big emotional commitment for you and a lot of trust and faith is placed upon us. We understand this and in-turn take the job that we do EXTREMELY seriously.

When you take our courses and employ us as your dating coach,  you are in-fact getting a life coach. We help you with all the vital pieces that are needed in order to improve yourself and get you having much more success with women and dating.

Feel free to have a look at some of our client testimonials.

It is important to us that we give a great service and that ALL of our clients benefit.

I’ll talk to you soon,

Colin Dubb 

Want to know more about what we do? 

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An important topic approaching women. Lets talk a bit about it.

When you cold approach a girl she can be slightly resistant as in hesitant in her responses to you, to interact back. The experienced guy understands that this is where persistence is important and she will most likely turn around soon. Women’s emotions are fluid and so her behavior will reflect this. If she gets a good feeling around you she will open right up. But first a woman needs to experience you and this can take more than just a few seconds to do so. Just keep going with the pick up.
 
At first she is can be nervous, uncertain of you, and just wants to play it cool. She wants to feel comfortable in your presents and she needs to feel safe. a woman needs to know that you’re safe.

This is where positivity and self esteem come into play. You need to know that you’re a good person to interact with and that you offer lots of value. This will be expressed in your attitude, body language and vibe. When you interact you take a strong assertive stance that is in line with your core. This is true masculinity and a woman needs this.

As an example you might be extremely confident in your questioning of her by way of asking “what’s your name, and where are you from”. You ask her these things not only to make conversation but you ask because you want to know! See the difference? One is passive and fake, the other is assertive and genuine. When you approach women this is very important

It’s then important that you go directly and talk about yourself. Tell her what area you are from and what you have been up to today. You demonstrate that you don’t need her approval and are self determining and validated. Just in the moment doing your thing and for now she is a part of it.

She now also has the opportunity to ask you questions about your statements and feels like she also has plenty to say. Again a woman  needs to feel that’s it’s easy to make conversation with you. Your just so easy to talk to she thinks. You know how to talk to women!

You can find commonalities, where you two are aligned and express things you both enjoy. It should register in the back of her mind that you could possibly be doing these things together. Flirtation, role playing, teasing, humor, edginess, and storytelling are extremely important at this point.

If for example she was from Melbourne, you might make a statement like, “actually the truth is I was out looking to meet some Melbourne people today, hence why I came over to talk to you.”

Now obviously you didn’t know she was from Melbourne and this statement would not make sense, but it’s edgy, and really triggers those emotions. This is flirting and creates interest and attention.
 
BTW, do you actually know what it means when somebody states that a woman needs her emotions triggered? How does friendly banter about your job achieve this? Well, it most likely won’t. If your conversation is safe and boring then you are safe and boring.

I would also do things like commenting on what we are talking about. Remember you are following your masculine energy and want to directly express to her that you are into her in a sexual manner. You don’t want to just end up being friends and so you make this clear. This behavior is very attractive and refreshing to her.

Ill say something like, “so what do you get up to on the weekends” and then while she is responding I’ll further comment, “you know where this is going don’t you”. Referring to the fact that I’m into her, going to be asking for the phone number soon or possibly even hooking up with her then and there.

I’m been very clear about my wants and there are no surprises. My confidence in my intention is very attractive to her for the truth is that women really do want to be taken and for a man to by pass social norms. Weak men are the furthest from what she wants yet that’s all she seems to get.

Thanks for reading,

Colin Dubb

Want to know more about what we do? 

visit the official website: www.daygamedating.com.au

Hi Colin Dubb here.

I wanted to update you all and let you know that I will be in Melbourne on the weekend of 20/21 April 2012.
 
I am running a special weekend session consisting of both a Night Game workshop and a  Day Game workshop.
 
This will be a killer of a weekend and not only will you get to see me in action and to see what is actually possible… You will also get to see and feel yourself being  successful with HOT girls.
 
BTW, my bootcamps are MASSIVELY  life changing. If you don’t feel that you get an amazing experience working with me then I will happily refund your money,  every cent!
 
The fee for this event is $999
 
This is 14 hours of infield live coaching by me personally.
 
I will also include 2 x 30 minute follow up Skype sessions as part of the package.
 
As well as unlimited email support,  Forever!
 
Join me in Melbourne for the weekend of 20/21 April 2012.
 
This is a special event and cannot be booked through the Day Game Dating website.
 
You will need to email Kelly admin@daygamedating.com.au to express your interest.
 
Don’t miss out on this. I promise to give you everything I know in my six plus years of running these workshops.
 
Places are limited and now might be your time. Take this opportunity.
 
Talk to you soon,
 
Colin Dubb

Want to know more about what we do? 

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Hey Colin Dubb here,

As seen on the Channel 7 Morning Show with James Tobin. If you want to find out more about our dating courses teaching men how to meet and attract women during the day. Check out our Day Game Dating website as featured www.daygamedating.com.au

You you can get onto our mailing list, receive a FREE book on meeting women during the day and get the latest articles and information on our workshops.

All dating programs are live and are held all around Australia. The dates can also be found on our website.

www.daygamedating.com.au

Hope to see you on the course soon…

Colin Dubb

This is a new year and everything is fresh! If you don’t feel you are capable or deserving of happiness, I am going to tell you otherwise. I Colin Dubb am going to tell you that it is every mans god given right to live the life they want and date the women they desire. You can do this! You can find that miss right and have a wonderful relationship. But you must take action and take action now!

You know what you must do and it is time act. Make your plans and don’t look back.

Thanks for reading

Colin Dubb

Life is to short to be unhappy, to be lonely and emotionally unfulfilled. Up until now, if you are struggling to meet and attract women and you just don’t seem to be able to work it out…You have a Life line. Day Game Dating has coached hundreds of clients since 2006 in getting their dating lives sorted. You can take advantage of our skills and experience. Check out our website www.daygamedating.com.au and book a coaching session today.

Want to know more about what we do? 

visit the official website: www.daygamedating.com.au

Hey,

I’m going to talk about something rather deep today. This is the concept of been OK with who you are and wanting to have women in your life, been upfront about how you feel and going for it. I would call this the “Master Level of Attraction” Becoming the ultimate MAN.

Its just occurred to me recently that most guys have a deep-seeded NEGATIVE belief that wanting to have women in their lives is somewhat wrong. When they come across a woman that catches their attention, they immediately try to cover up the fact that they are attracted to her and hide their intentions. Really think about it. Usually on some level, it has been conditioned into men that our drives of wanting to sleep with women and pursue them is something negative, something to be hidden. We should feel bad about it and apologise for wanting to CONNECT.

How many times have you seen a woman that catches your eye, whether it be at work, a social gathering, or on the street, and for some reason you didn’t act? You felt stuck and awkward about the fact that you’re attracted. Then you came up with excuses. Maybe she is not available, or I don’t really know what to do. How about this one? I’m not good enough. Awe painful, isn’t it!

If you really think about it. These are just excuses for not being true to yourself and feeling that its ok to go for it. On some level, you believe that these emotions you’re having of feeling attracted to her are a BAD thing. That you should side step the truth of the situation with techniques. You still try to hook up with her, but rather come in on an angle. Instead of just being upfront and honest, you complicate it. And actually PUSH it away!

Now just to clarify. I’m not talking about expressing your UN-dying love for a woman in the stereo typical needy kind of fashion that most men do. You know I mean… Telling a girl that you have feelings for her and hoping that she will return the gesture. (Usually after spending weeks talking to her) Can you relate?

What I am talking about is acknowledging the fact that you find a woman attractive from the very beginning of seeing her. Being up front about this attraction you feel and expressing it. But, and here is the big But! Coming from a place of total ease and inner-contentment. Total self sufficiency and non-reaction seeking. In other words, your motive for expressing your desire is NOT to generate a reaction, but to rather express how you feel, both pursuing it and giving her a choice. You are coming from that rare, but incredibly ATTRACTIVE place of the real-man! The type of man that acknowledges what he wants and goes for it. Making no apologies and not feeling bad about it. A man who takes action!

How many times do women ask “where are all the real men?” Let me tell you, I hear this all the time. This is frustrating for both sexes. Women can’t find men and men can’t attract women. So we either stay single or we settle.

It needs to change. Be a real man, who knows what he wants, knows how to act and does not feel bad. This will not only help to fulfil your dating aspirations and needs, but it will also help the women in this world by giving them what they want. REAL-MEN!

It’s almost a responsibility, not a choice. Start working on this today and catch up. You have a job to do!

Want to know more about what we do? 

visit the official website: www.daygamedating.com.au

Why won’t most men approach that group of women that they see sitting by the bar, or go up and talk to that girl during the day eating her lunch?

Again that word “rejection” comes up. It seems that most men are scared of being rejected.

Let’s take a good look at rejection. Is it really such a bad thing and could perceived rejection possibly be a much needed stepping stone onto enjoying more success in your interactions with women?

rejection topics on how to meet women workshops through to seduction bootcamps leading to attraction.

I would break that down even further and look at things in “short-term” and “long-term” perspectives.

You see, life is about taking risks, and when you are aware that you can never fully grow and move over to that next level of success without risking failure (rejection at some point). You realise that you have no choice in the matter and you will just have to take a chance and go for it!

You hopefully realise that time old saying of “nothing ventured nothing gained” most definitely applies to the game of love.

The fact of the matter is this… If you see a woman that you would like to meet and take a chance by approaching her, you risk potentially getting rejected. That’s a given.

The positive flip side to all of this is that you are also creating an opportunity for yourself to potentially hook up with somebody that you find attractive. This opportunity only occurs because you are approaching her and risking rejection.

In this immediate situation (short-term) of approaching her and taking a risk. If rejection does occur and things don’t work out… This is still an incredibly positive outcome, because you are learning.

In the overall scheme of things (long-term) you will have the much desired success. Taking risks and interacting with women in a broad range of situations, regardless of outcome, is schooling you in the complexities of the dating world. You are learning new skills and proving to yourself that rejection does not hurt you. It actually makes your stronger.

You are also improving your people skills through trial and error and gaining much needed experience.

So is rejection such a bad thing? I would strongly suggest that it’s not. It’s simply the way that you perceive it.

get dating and love with pick up women advice from a day game dating coach.

Rejection should actually make you happy as it’s a great indication that you are on the right track, taking chances and learning. You are proving to yourself that you are strong enough to deal with it and can get back out there. I say “the more rejection the better.”

A time will come in the not too distant future where, not only has rejection stoped having a negative emotional effect on you, but it occurs much less as those early hard knocks that you took have allowed you to develop great skills.

Now you know how to approach women and generate much more consistent results, all because you learned to deal with rejection early on.

Take a chance, life is short and remember. Rejection is your friend.

Good luck

Colin

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Are you enjoying reading the articles on this blog? I truly hope so; I seriously spend a large amount of time ensuring that the articles I write will help you become the best that you can be…

If you want to know how to get a girlfriend or simply date a bunch of women – It’s your choice. As long as you’re upfront and honest about it, I’m with you all the way!

I update this blog every week and write about all sorts of topics that I experience with our clients. Points I believe will be of benefit to the wider audience. I also post inside information on upcoming events and what our team is up to. Hopefully you are finding it interesting.

What I would suggest though, if you truly desire to go deeper into the topic of women and dating…  You should join our mailing list. Again it’s FREE and with just a little over 4500 subscribers worldwide, we have men all over raving about it’s content. And women to.

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Forget all of the sleazy pick-up-women, pick-up-artist analogies that so casually get thrown around the Internet. We are NOT Pick up artists who teach you a bunch of shallow, manipulating techniques that end up doing more damage to you than good.

We respect women and we respect our clients. From running our training courses to our business practices. Respect is the name of the game.

‘Day Game Dating’ is a life coaching company for men that offers professional-in-depth-training. This covers a vast amount of self-improvement topics and methodologies. As well as teaching you how to approach-women, date-women, and get into a relationship… We deeply cover those topics associated with self development and improvement.

The stated truth is this… “If you want to attract a great life partner who has all aspects of their life together…”  “You had better get yourself together.”

Get a dating coach with our attraction and seduction workshops.

When you utilize the services of our company for the purposes of enhancing your attractiveness to women, and you look to sort out this part of your life… This is a big emotional commitment for you, and a lot of trust and faith is placed upon us. We understand this, and in-turn take the job that we do EXTREMELY seriously.

When you take our courses and employ us as your Dating Coach… You are in-fact getting a Llife Coach. We help you with all the vital pieces that are needed in order to improve yourself, and get you having much more success with women.

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As DATING COACHES at ‘Day Game Dating’, we always get asked many questions about picking up women. The best questions are the ones about a recent situation that has occurred in an interaction with a woman and what to do in the future.

I want to go through something today regarding teasing women and I decided I would do something a bit different. I’m going to post an actual question and answer that took place recently.

Onward…

Personally I get tons of emails per day with guys asking things about various topics. 

Now, you may not be aware, but we have also set up an active forum specifically set to handle a lot of the enquiry. This is great as everybody reading gets to learn. 

I’m going to post something that recently took place on the forum. I think you may find it helpful as its a hot topic. (By the way, if you didn’t know we had a forum and you would like to check it out and become a member, Please feel free to do so. http://www.daygamedating.com.au/forum/index.php

***Teasing & Flirting Can Be Tricky (QUESTION)*** (as written in forum no editing)

Hi everyone,

Nice to meet you all. This is my first post and I just spent a few of minutes reading the work of others and I have to say this forum looks like its going to be great. Its made me laugh more than once already, dislocating a shoulder on the dance floor – that’s effort.

I have attended a bootcamp and had an amazing day. One of the things I learned is the importance of being a tease and humorous. I like to think I am a funny guy in my own sort of way, and my friends know me like this. But giving it to others is a little more tricky. In the spirit of teasing I decided to give it a shot at a bar in Wollongong on a Friday night. A reasonably attractive girl sat down at our table, as the table next to us with her friends had no space left. This was ok with my friends. But not with me because I wanted to tease. I said, so youll have to talk to us if you do, if you think you can? She replied in a slightly rood manner with a no thanks. I decided to tell her she was probably too old for us anyway. She looked 22 so I said, 32? She was getting annoyed, so I told her I don’t think you have the conversational ability to talk to us anyway, despite your age.

It continued along getting more and more bitter. So I finally gave her some crap for some acne she had, so she told me I was obviously gay and would be wanking tonight.

Not so smooth. I didn’t give a shit at the time. I had a few beers, my friends couldn’t believe what just happened- a good laugh for them!

So I realised one thing about the teasing at the time. Its not to put the other person down. Its not to make give them a bitter taste. It needs to be playful. I don’t come from a teasing/flirty family (all boys in our house) and my friends are very dry. We have humor but not in a flirty way. So this is new to me. And the next day I didn’t feel to good about it either, I’m not here to cause problems for anyone.

I decided to get colins eBook, which is a really big help, complimenting the boot camp greatly. I learned that you tease on temporary things!

So the moral of the story, keep it fun. And watch the undertone of the flirting, for me it hasn’t been playful as much as bitter, with a few girls to tell the truth.

So I need some of you advice:

Would I be wrong in saying if the girl is not responding to your teasing/flirting building some rapport would be in order?

Has any one been in a situation where the teasing began to go bitter, and how did you handle it?

And what was your most important thing you learned about flirting if you too had to practice it?

I look forward to your replies.

***Teasing &Flirting Can Be Tricky (ANSWER)*** (Colin)

Hey ******,

Thanks for the contribution to the group and for sharing this experience.

I will give you a few hints when it comes to teasing women and then we can see how your situation fits in.

1, They have to know your joking on some level.
2, It has to be some-what funny. (even if you are bringing  up one of her short comings to attention and its borderline. As long as its funny, it can usually be ok)
3, Never ever come from a reaction seeking, response generating state of mind. If you are teasing simply to get a reaction and a response, it can come across as try hard instead of charming (Telling her she has to talk to you) (not to confuse you, she may have already wanted to talk to you for sitting at your table and so by teasing her on this very point, she may have instantly thought to herself “This guy doesn’t get it”.)
4, Not all girls have a sense of humour and so will not get it when you tease them, no matter how smooth you come across.
5, There is a strong relationship between a women’s self image and how well she will take to it. If she has a lot of self doubt and poor self image, she may be offended and not realise that your playing with her.
6, As a rule of thumb, the hotter the girl and the more confident and easy going she is… The more you cam tease her.
7,Teasing must fit in with your personality as in congruence. If you are not accustomed to doing this sort of stuff, than expect a few challenges in the beginning.

Now, this is just a list of pointers that can act as a guide for you. I wasn’t there when you teased this girl so I can’t comment much more. What I would say, is to look at this list and try to determine where things fell short. I reckon some things may stand out at you. I would take a closer look at points 2, 3, 4, 5 and 7. From the post it sounds like you may have broken some of these rules.

Please let me know what you think. As I said, I wasn’t there but I suspect you can work out where you went wrong. ‘Colin’

Did you read the above forum posts thoroughly? 

I believe that its very important to understand the concept of teasing women. Its a great way to spice up your interactions when done correctly and can really get things going. On the flip-side though, It can also be very damaging if you dont grasp the concept of teasing women. It can hurt your interactions and more importantly your self esteem as you take it personally.

The points that I always like to get across when teaching the topic of teasing women are very much covered in the above post. In-fact I couldn’t have found a better Way to write this concept than actually giving you a real life scenario. Read it again and apply it.

As usual I hope this helps you. If your succeeding than Im succeeding.

Cheers

Colin

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The best way that I find to start a conversation with women… Is to use something funny and direct.
 
I would always stress that its the ATTITUDE and thought of oneself behind the actual pick-up-line, that ultimately determines how well a woman will respond to you. That’s said, humour placed in any interaction with women will always go a long way in helping your cause. Even if your pick-up-line is lame. If she knows your joking and slightly teasing her… This is a good thing!
 
If you feel great within yourself, you like yourself, and truly feel that you are a valuable and attractive man, who simply wants to make these women laugh… You are already miles ahead.
 
Its this good spirited and care free attitude of yours, that will come across in your approach with women. This will insure you a good response.
 
Its a matter of taking this care free attitude of happiness and value and projecting it onto a woman (or group of women) for the purpose of generating a smile, a laugh, and the potential to create a good interaction for all involved.

Pick up lines to flirt with women and get dating.

 
Here are my top ten openers that will achieve this. (again your attitude behind this is key to making it work) Use them and have fun. They will work for you as well as they have worked for me. They are different and show personality on your side of things. Good luck
 
1. She is on her mobile phone texting somebody, You lean over and say “send him my love” Smile
2. She is on her laptop, tell her you caught her looking at nude men, how could she? Look shocked with a smile
3. Two girls are having coffee, you walk in and ask “Is this your first date?”
4. Two girls are at a table having a drink, you pull up a chair, sit down and smile and start apologising for been so late, and ask them what they ordered for you.
5. Walk around with a frisbee, go to the park, spot some girls and yell “catch” throw the Frisbee at them. (works well at the beach too)
6. Girl is at the pub ordering drinks, ask her what drink she is buying you, tell her not to go over board, beers fine and your not that fussy
7. Ask a girl who is smoking for a lighter, when she gives it to you, simply put it in your pocket and with a straight face, continue talking to your friend like nothing happened. (this one is hilarious) She should come over and laugh
8. Clink your drink glass (at a pub) with random girls glass, Say “Geez your rough, lets try that again”
9. High five girls, pretend that she hurt your hand, she will be apologetic while laughing
10. At the bookstore, she is reading a book, lean over a whisper, “gosh, free loader,  uni education free of charge hey”

Try these, have fun with them and use them as a way to get an interaction going. This will start things off in the right way and allow a more light hearted interaction. This is what you want to achieve when you first approach a woman. Keep the interaction simple and light hearted.
 
Good luck
 
Colin

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Let the internal flow through to the external, so they see it in your eyes, your face, and your energy. You trust in that and let the outcome go.

When you’re internally heeled you will be internally guided on what to say, how to be, and when to act. You will believe in yourself and your gut. You will move on a different frequency where things with women naturally occur. There will come a time when you trust in the process and let it go. It will not matter how you act because it’s your presence that attracts.

Been sure of your self is highly attractive for all involved. But take caution in this! It’s not to be demonstrated through a fake front, as this will only create a barrier and push women away. This is why you need to do the real work and it can take some time. Recognising within yourself that you do have value and you are a good guy who is sexually attractive.

Opening up your natural attractiveness by recognising your inner strength, thus allowing it to shine through and surrounding you as your aura.

At the end of the day it’s really about beliefs, self esteem and the realisation of self value and natural-self-attractiveness. The key to this is increased self awareness through continued growth. To have the ability to approach women openly and seductively, while at the same time having boundaries with zero neediness.

Learn to be direct and honest with women, let yourself be seduced and in the moment, but come from a place of honesty and little outcome dependence.
You are who you are living happily in your world and inviting people to join you. Your life is a great life and your living the dream.

Talk soon

Colin

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A few years ago Alex and I did a live video recording where he interviewed me on what is called “Inner-Game.” Now as you may know, I’ve never really been involved much with the whole pick up women community thing, but it was interesting to get a bit of insight into some of the terms they use.

For example, what I have been calling “Inner- Work” and “Self Awareness”, they have termed “Inner- Game.” Regardless of the difference in name, the focus is the same. Improve yourself as a man from the inside first to become a lot more sexually attractive to women.

Check out the video of us chatting about this important topic when it comes to women and dating. The video is FREE and highly educational. There is about 40 minutes of footage and its well worth it.  Enjoy

Check out Colin Dubb & Alex Coulson

Colin Dubb

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Happy Holidays!

From all of us here at Day Game Dating, we’d like to wish you a happy and safe holiday season.
 
Make 2012 the best year yet!

- Colin Dubb
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- John
- Craig
- Jacob
 
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Enjoy This Article on The Art of Confidence

Many clients ask me what is the number one trait to have in attracting women and I always respond with the word “confidence”. The simple fact is that confidence is magnetic, it is attractive and women desire it. In this article I would like to talk about confidence and how to improve it.

I think in order to portray confidence a man needs to feel confident, confident that he is a good catch, confident that he is desirable and most importantly confident in the actions he takes as a man when attracting women.

You see most men fall into the trap of trying to impress a woman, overly please her and try to come across as the perfect gentleman. Although this sounds good in theory, the reality is that there is no such thing as perfect. You are not perfect and she is not perfect. When a man places this type of pressure on himself, to only do and say the right things, the opposite occurs and he becomes, insecure, nervous, and stilted. This is when he usually blows it.

Think about this situation. When was the last time you saw an attractive woman, perhaps you tried to talk to her but the words simply would not come out the way you wanted. You felt nervous and scattered, uneasy with yourself. This is an example of a lack of confidence, you feel it, she feels it, and it’s unattractive. Whenever you feel that you need to impress somebody by only doing the right things this makes you insecure. Most men feel they need to be perfect around women. Understanding this concept is the first step to reversing this effect and thus improving self- confidence.

The next part is to take a look at your life and ask “what’s in it for her”. What does she gain by getting to know you and how can her life improve? If you come to the conclusion that you also bring value to the table and that not only do you gain something from her, but equally as important, she also gains something from you, your sense of self worth can begin to improve as now you see this as an equal exchange of value. You won’t feel so much like the underdog and you can begin to be yourself.

Finally I would focus on the physical aspects of confidence. Make sure to have good eye contact with a woman when speaking to her, try not to fidget too much and do obvious things like scratching your face several times demonstrating that you are nervous. I would strongly suggest taking a few deep breaths and just try to relax around women and focus on getting to know them as opposed to just making a good impression.

Men need to realise that women are not so different when it comes to dating. They also have their insecurities around meeting quality men and also unsure about men’s thinking and what they want.
Do some work around discovering the value you bring to women, be conscious of your body language, and keep in mind that women are just like you and don’t hold any special power. Try to get out there and practice! Talk to lots of women and get to know them. Speed dating is a great way to start as you can literally talk to several women and build up your practice rapidly.

And never forget to have fun. Dating is not supposed be taken to seriously and it’s simply an interaction. Now get out there and have fun!

Talk to you soon.

Colin Dubb

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Every guy I meet through my work as a dating coach has something in common. He is not satisfied with his love life. He wants to learn how to meet more women and create stronger connections. He wants to know how to approach, what to say, and how to act to facilitate a good first impression…

Now – I have a few friends that are incredible with women. Unfortunately they fail to understand why other guys struggle. In other words, they don’t understand what the issue is. There advice would be to “just toughen up – be a man and go for it – and if it doesn’t work out, try again – and if that fails. Move on.” Sounds so simple doesn’t it?

I was out the other night with a good friend of mine. We went to a well known club in Sydney. Now this guy is superb with women. He is like a walking magnet and attracts attention where ever he goes. He can even give me a run for my money… Well sometimes. (jokes)

Not only does my friend approach women, but women also approach him.

We are having a drink by the bar and he says to me “Col, see all those guys standing around checking out the girls – they might as well go home if they plan on picking up, they look so unhappy and needy.” “Why don’t you go over and show them how it’s done?” I laughed and told him to mind his business and finish his drink. He then begins to tell me that there is probably nothing I could do to help them anyway.

Now keep in mind that this guy is a true natural with women. His had amazingly gorgeous girlfriends and always has other girls hanging around hoping they will be next. Is he arrogant? Yes! But… Does he have the slightest clue about why he is so successful? Most likely, the answer is no. 

The comments that he made to me about not been able to teach them anything and help them out… I asked what he meant by that.

Carefully read his answer – it’s full of gold and typical of the true natural’s outlook.

My friend goes on to tell me that they these guys look desperate. They are totally focused on scoring for the night. He says “they don’t even know how to have fun with their friends.” He explains that even if I gave them some magic pick up lines and things to talk about, they would be so focused on trying to get the girls to like them that it would just scare them off faster.

My friends words, not mine…

Now as I stated, my friend is very successful, but he does not consciously know how he does it. He just has fun in the moment and creates his own luck. He has a vibe. And it’s this vibe that draws women in. In his mind he is successful is because he is able to have fun while expecting that women will join in. He doesn’t feel the need to try.

You see, men that are unsuccessful with women don’t know how to have fun without them. On some level they are always looking to get attention and impress. They need a woman’s approval. This neediness is what ultimately pushes them away.

Men want to learn the so called “secrets” but there are none. What you do and say to a woman will not attract her. Its how you live with yourself that determines your success.

This article is full of little nuggets of gold. Think hard about the content… It could be the realisation that you need.

Talk to you soon.

Colin Dubb

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To become incredibly successful with women I work under the premise that knowledge is power. If you understood the structure of courtship, what women look for in a man, took the steps into becoming that man, and then effectively demonstrated it… You would be highly attractive! To be in a situation where you know without a shadow of doubt that you are the type of man that women crave, because you understand what traits women crave and that YOU exhibit them.

So where do you start, how do you change?

I believe there are four important stages to the transformation process. It is these stages that will need your strong focus and attention.

They are;

1, Identity - Finding yourself, as in self discovery, what internal baggage do you carry (self doubt/fear/complexes) and removing this baggage as to become a happy and healthy person.

2, Social Awareness - Learning the subtle processes of social interaction and specifically the effective communication styles used between males and females.

3, Structure – A plan to follow allowing you to move systematically through the stages of meeting, dating, and intimacy. (Courtship)

4, Become Interesting – The ability to successfully convey a genuine and interesting personality that will carry you through the various stages of the courtship process.

There are certain animalistic and biological personality traits that women seek out in men. When these traits are demonstrated it has an almost magic like effect on a woman. She responds! In order to cultivate these traits and then communicate them effectively a transformation process needs to occur. The above four points are your roadmap. Each area should be worked on. This may take some time but it is well worth it.

By the way, ‘Day Game Dating’ runs a FREE newsletter that goes even further into the topics of effective dating and includes real life stories of men who have been out in the field meeting women. I even answer the majority of questions posed and help with certain sticking points. Again you can have access to it all, and it’s free!

If you have not yet joined up then I would urge you to do so. All you need is an email address which we promise to NEVER share with anyone. Oh, and anytime you decide that you have figured this stuff out and you don’t need our help anymore – You can simply unsubscribe. It just takes a click.

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Of course we also hold regular dating workshops and bootcamps and offer a full range of private coaching options. This can all be found on the website.

Talk to you soon,

Colin Dubb

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