‘Day Game Dating‘ is Australia’s largest and fastest growing dating coaching company for men. Since 2006 we have been running live boot-camps and workshops teaching men from all walks of life on how to become much more successful with women.
Due to our wonderful and loyal client base we have been able to grow significantly. We are now about to move into a much larger office in the heart of Sydney’s famous Bondi Junction. We will now be able to hold more regular dating workshops and training days.
Our new address is suite 1205, 1 Newland ST, Bondi Junction.
Thanks again for all your support and the group is committed to bringing you the best dating coaching within the industry.
By the way, ‘Day Game Dating’ runs a FREE newsletter that goes even further into the topics of effective dating and includes real life stories of men who have been out in the field meeting women. I even answer the majority of questions posed and help with certain sticking points. Again you can have access to it all, and it’s free!
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Of course we also hold regular dating workshops and bootcamps and offer a full range of private coaching options. This can all be found on the website.
I just want to say that if you are not dating the types of women that you desire and are struggling to generate interest and attraction… You simply are not having enough real world interactions and gaining those skills.
Getting good at picking up women could be the same as learning public speaking. The more you get out there and try, the better you will get! Sure you can learn some theory (and yes this can help) but ultimately it’s the internal feeling of proficiency that will carry you through onto success. You will only ever generate this feeling, this self knowing also called congruence, from lots and lots of field experience. And yes, this includes making plenty of mistakes. In fact, it’s the mistakes (the really painful ones) where you make your BEST gains. Why? because if it is painful enough… You are guaranteed not to do it again.
At the same time you should also be going through a personal self development process. Improving self esteem and developing a strong sense of self. It’s when this sense of self combined with field experience intertwines together, that women begin to feel attracted to you. And not just in a small way either… I am talking full blown desire to be with you!! Women will instantly recognise when you have done the internal work, been through the hard slog and come through fighting. You are different and they know this. They feel it and it’s attractive!
Getting girls and creating healthy relationships should never be that hard. It is a normal and healthy part of human nature. Struggling is abnormal and is an indication that work needs to be done. Most of the work will be internal, in my mind, at least 80%. Usually the internal struggles are to do with fears of intimacy, connection and trust. The goal should be to discover your blockages and work through them.
Life is to short to be unhappy, to be lonely and emotionally unfulfilled. Up until now, if you are struggling to meet and attract women and you just don’t seem to be able to work it out…You have a Life line. Day Game Dating has coached hundreds of clients since 2006 in getting their dating lives sorted. You can take advantage of our skills and experience. Check out our website www.daygamedating.com.au and book a coaching session today.
These are the important points that I notice KILL THE VIBE with women during your interactions.
1, Needing That Outcome You may have heard this before but it’s such a huge sticking point. During the interaction, needing that outcome, that response, that end result. The overwhelming desire to make it work and for things to go perfectly. This stiffens up the interaction and causes you to take on a wooden like demeanour (Think of trying to carefully to carry a full cup of tea and not spill it. Trying so hard makes you spill it).
You should be aware when you are in this outcome dependence state during the interaction. You find yourself analysing her a little too deeply and thinking about your responses far too much. In return she picks up on this hesitation and what ultimately gets communicated to her is that you are trying really hard to make this work. You lose value and lower attractiveness.
You need to keep an important point in mind when interacting with women. We humans always strive towards the perceived higher value person and generally the least reactive person in an interaction would be the one who holds this value. If you are looking for outcome with her and this causes you to react… It reduces your value and attractiveness.
2, Getting Bombarded with Emotions of Self Doubt
Ever been in an interaction with a girl and all of a sudden you start to doubt yourself and feel that you aren’t good enough? This is another huge sticking point for many men. Again this lowers your value and destroys attraction as your insecurities seep through. Think about this… If you were the real deal, high value and filled with genuine emotions of esteem and self worth. You knew without a shadow of doubt that her life would be enriched with you in it… Would emotions of self doubt come up for you? Would you fear a negative outcome? I think the answer is clear.
3, Putting in too much Energy to Early on During the Interaction
This is to do with calibration and can only be uncovered through lots of field experience. Going in to hard to early and then losing momentum. In other words the vibe just dies. You see you have great-approach-game but you let it all unleash too quickly. In other words you go in with major fire power and guns fill blazing, but then experience burn out. It just dies. So what’s the solution? Calibration is key. You need a good balance of energy that can be worked up as things progress. I guess this behaviour would occur from the mindset of ‘let her also work for you.’ Being slightly mysterious and making her have to figure you out, to push YOUR buttons.
Can you see the common thread with the above three points? They all go back to value. In order to create and sustain attractiveness you must demonstrate genuine and persistent value. This value begins with your internal emotions and ultimately gets communicated through your behaviours. But it’s all linked! A good balance between self development and live field experience is the perfect way to grow your game and become truly amazing at cold approaching and picking up women.
Day/Night whatever… Just get out there and do it. If you are just starting out I would suggest a ratio of 70% field experience and 30% personal development (including learning about dating-such as this article). As you skills improve I would tend to work more on yourself while still been out there. A good ratio of 50% infield and 50% personal development.
By the way, ‘Day Game Dating’ runs a FREE newsletter that goes even further into the topics of effective dating and includes real life stories of men who have been out in the field meeting women. I even answer the majority of questions posed and help with certain sticking points. Again you can have access to it all, and it’s free!
If you have not yet joined up then I would urge you to do so. All you need is an email address which we promise to NEVER share with anyone. Oh, and anytime you decide that you have figured this stuff out and you don’t need our help anymore – You can simply unsubscribe. It just takes a click.
Of course we also hold regular dating workshops and bootcamps and offer a full range of private coaching options. This can all be found on the website.
I have something very exciting to share with you all. I am not going to ruin the suprise but ‘Day Game Dating’ is about to launch something new that will completely change the way that clients can learn about women…
It has been a while between posts… So I hope to make it a good one! Enjoy;
So it’s really interesting when you break down exactly what is occurring throughout the entire process of a cold approach, from beginning to end. You start to see and feel patterns…
As you spot the girl of interest you slowly begin making your way towards her, your mind blank with what is occurring and rather surrounded with a strong feeling of intent, to initiate and get an interaction moving in a positive direction. You know that you will come up with something effective, on the spot to initiate things… Just like a funny guy who cracks a joke over a random situation. You just know what to say… So, you begin the interaction with your throw away comment knowing that it will be good enough to carry you through into attraction and rapport.
As you gain more experience in cold approaching women, you will begin to notice that there is usually somewhat of a stiffness on her part to accept and embrace you right off the bat. Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes this won’t occur and you will be in right away. But most of the time during your cold approaches you will get that initial reluctance (just go with it).
It’s as this point that your experience and skill must kick in. Don’t fall into the trap of what I like to call “gap filling.” In other words, the temptation to over compensate for her lack of initial response in the approach, whereby you start asking questions and talking to much out of fear of rejection (Again created by an initial lack of rapport). You learn from experience that this can occur, so you expect it but won’t fall for it. Calm and easy is the key!!
My mindset is this… I will cold approach to get something going, but I know through experience that I must find a good balance between awkward silences or over compensating. I need to sustain a good balance of banter during those early stages of the interaction. To create a good balance of rapport and attraction.
I will approach with my comment, expect her to be somewhat tense, but then plough through knowing not to over compensate with talking to much. In other words I try to talk enough but still leave enough room for her to fill in gaps, whereby putting her in a place where she ALSO has to make an effort. This is important! read it again if you didn’t understand it.
This trick is to initiate the approach but then turn things around where she finds herself chatting you up. Then you can take the interaction in to whatever direction you choose. At this point if you’re smart, you will ensure that a sexual connection is occurring between you and the girls as opposed to boring and pointless chatter. This is a major sticking point for a lot of guys who get good at talking to women but not taking things further.
To know within every facet of your being that you can give a woman an earth shattering experience, a one of a kind, in that when she is with you, she will feel like she is in heaven. You demonstrate an amazing character, a lifestyle, and through your subtle communication processes. You communicate to her that you are a sexual being and will blow her away in the bedroom. You need to have the self confidence and feel worthy of being the most amazing lover she will ever experience! And by believing and understanding that you exhibit these qualities. You naturally demonstrate them to her.
You flirt, tease and insinuate. You hold strong eye contact and role play. You allow yourself to be in the moment and let the animalistic side of your being seep through.
Have you ever experienced this?
That part of you that takes over and lives for the moment. Your animalistic part that knows how to turn a woman on, that knows how to lead her, and close her. It’s your true masculine/sexual part of your genetic make-up that communicates with her feminine sexual part of her genetic make-up (long words I know). They have their own language, their own set of rituals that will court and close each other. It all happens through you, leading you! You’re simply taken on a ride as these biological parts of your being take control. You let it happen as it happens through you.
She has this to, an animalistic side and its triggered by yours. It’s the part within us humans that needs to mate and knows what to do. A lot of times is suppressed, unable to express itself and achieve it’s objective. You who are struggling with the opposite sex may suffer from this suppressed state. It may feel like an inadequacy, a state of toxic shame (a splinter in your mind-Matrix). You want it but you can’t achieve it. You feel embarrassed and fear the implications of allowing yourself to let go, to be free and express your natural desires.
I do a lot of personal one on one coaching on this very topic. If you would like to find out more about what holds you back and how to work through it… ‘Day Game Dating offers’ ongoing private coaching that will address these deeper issues.
To become incredibly successful with women I work under the premise that knowledge is power. If you understood the structure of courtship, what women look for in a man, took the steps into becoming that man, and then effectively demonstrated it… You would be highly attractive! To be in a situation where you know without a shadow of doubt that you are the type of man that women crave, because you understand what traits women crave and that YOU exhibit them.
So where do you start, how do you change?
I believe there are four important stages to the transformation process. It is these stages that will need your strong focus and attention.
They are;
1, Identity - Finding yourself, as in self discovery, what internal baggage do you carry (self doubt/fear/complexes) and removing this baggage as to become a happy and healthy person.
2, Social Awareness - Learning the subtle processes of social interaction and specifically the effective communication styles used between males and females.
3, Structure – A plan to follow allowing you to move systematically through the stages of meeting, dating, and intimacy. (Courtship)
4, Become Interesting – The ability to successfully convey a genuine and interesting personality that will carry you through the various stages of the courtship process.
There are certain animalistic and biological personality traits that women seek out in men. When these traits are demonstrated it has an almost magic like effect on a woman. She responds! In order to cultivate these traits and then communicate them effectively a transformation process needs to occur. The above four points are your roadmap. Each area should be worked on. This may take some time but it is well worth it.
By the way, ‘Day Game Dating’ runs a FREE newsletter that goes even further into the topics of effective dating and includes real life stories of men who have been out in the field meeting women. I even answer the majority of questions posed and help with certain sticking points. Again you can have access to it all, and it’s free!
If you have not yet joined up then I would urge you to do so. All you need is an email address which we promise to NEVER share with anyone. Oh, and anytime you decide that you have figured this stuff out and you don’t need our help anymore – You can simply unsubscribe. It just takes a click.
For the last several months I have been researching and putting all of my best materiel learned over the years of running ‘Day Game Dating’ into my newest book. At the moment I am still some time away from completion, but I will post some regular exerpts. Enjoy.
As a man is attracted to the physical traits of a woman, a woman is attracted to the behaviour traits of a man. His independence, leadership and status, but also his ability to understand women, the game and how to escalate physically. An attractive man demonstrates that he is comfortable with himself, comfortable around women and confident in dealing with women. He is a man’s man but a ladies’ man. Strong, dominant and independent, but is real and caring.
At the same time he gets women, attraction and society. He understands people and he understands himself. He is not better than other people, he doesn’t think his better, but he understands people better. A real man gets all of this and he understands attraction. Attraction is created through his attitudes, movement’s and behaviours, as well as his conversations, body language and actions. He is always escalating with a woman he finds attractive. This is what creates, builds, and maintains attraction.
The need to be in a relationship, to have girls in your life for the simple sake of validation and reassurance - not cool! This is neediness and neediness is bullshit. You want women in your life that can be a good source of company and a possible deeper connection. Your life is already filled and you value yourself and who you are. You don’t feel the need to be complemented, to be made to feel that you are good enough. You already are good enough, complete with certainty, strength and independence. This is transparent. This is about taking what you already have, adding value and receiving enjoyment in return. Emotionally, physically and mentally.
A woman has needs and feelings. First and foremost, she needs you to be honest with her, to communicate who you are and what you want. A woman also has a tough time, she is sexually repressed. She is as horny as hell (natural drive) and wants what you have, but she can’t ask for it. You have to lead her in a way that makes her feel void of responsibility. You must realise that she wants you sexually but at the same time needs you to be subtle - and guide her. Treat her well, with respect and certainly and don’t ever let any needs of uncertainty or a lack of internal validation get in the way of a great connection.
This is a short taste of what’s to come, to removing your road blocks and limitations while truly giving you the big picture on how to be the most attractive YOU possible.
“There is no question about it, in order to be successful with women you genuinely have to feel good about yourself.”
You have to like yourself and feel proud about what you can offer. This could involve been proud of your looks, your body, maybe your success in life, or maybe just the self confidence in knowing that you are studying women and dating. These are vital points in allowing you to demonstrate incredible self confidence and charisma.
Something must be sparked within your mind as to get you to begin believing in yourself, to start to see yourself as value offering and valuable to any woman. The way that you see and structure your interactions has a major impact on the results you achieve. It must work in your mind “first” before it can become a reality. Have you not ever heard that we create our own realities?
So in order the create a situation where a woman will begin to feel sexually attracted to you, the stage needs to be set for this to occur, and this stage will only occur when it has been set in your mind. You need to see yourself as valuable, as value offering and that she (any woman) will benefit. This will communicate something much stronger than any spoken word ever could. This will trigger certain feelings inside of a woman that will allow her to see your value. – Right from the start!
“You must know that you can offer her an experience that other men can’t. An experience that she craves that you are certain will blow her mind.”
Become outstanding in every area of your life. Improve yourself emotionally and physically. Dress well, look good, and aim to develop a charismatic and likeable personality. Study sex, and seduction, flirting and chemistry. Learn how to be an amazing lover, a sensual man. Create wealth, and success. Cultivate a lifestyle that’s exciting and rare. Learn about art, and culture and class. Become the ideal man, high status, educated, and unique. The type of man who leads the field in every walk of life.
Your will begin to feel much better about yourself (valuable) and women will respond in the most incredible ways.
As part of the yearly Easter specials that the company offers each year, 2010 will be no different. This year we are bigger and better then ever and now we are offering a wider range of personal coaching options.
I would like to take the opportunity to introduce you to the ‘Dubb Coaching Group‘.
Not to complicate things to much as it does not affect our ‘Day Game Dating‘ client’s’ in anyway.
To briefly explain, the ‘Dubb Coaching Group’ runs all of our coaching brands that we offer in the different coaching markets. Everything is run as a conglomerate under the ‘Dubb Coaching Group’ Banner.
As mentioned in a previous post on this Blog, this is very exciting news as it gives us a lot more access and flexibility to experiment and learn from a broader range of coaching styles and mythologies.
To introduce you to the wonderful new services of our company, we have decided to run some great specials over Easter. The specifics will not be posted on any of the websites, but if you contact us through any of the available avenues… We will certainly pass on the information.
Have a look around at our new services www.dubbcoachinggroup.com.au. If you do happen to spot any website or grammar errors, I do apologies in advance. Like anything of this size, there are bound to be some teething problems. We are in the process of fixing them.
Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking on this whole ‘Day Game Dating’ pick up thing…
I run a company that teaches men how to pick up women. We take our client’s live into the field and demonstrate our skills.
If I think back a few years ago I would never have thought I would be involved in offering a service such as this… Yet the company is doing really well and all of us involved are truly loving our work! It’s extremely satisfying to be able to wake up in the morning and go to work knowing that you are making a difference.
The job satisfaction of taking a client who is frustrated with his lack of ability to date women and been able to coach him through it… it’s incredibly fulfilling.
A lack of self-awareness and social-intelligence combined with poor communication skills are the general causes for a lack of success with women. We work on these areas to enable a noticeable and sustainable improvement.
This is never about manipulating women or over using techniques to generate responses. It’s about becoming your naturally attractive self and discovering your value. You feel wonderful inside and allow others to see it. They feel it and want to be a part of it.
My realisations are based around the fact that we must heal our wounds and discover our truth. The truth in that we are all naturally attractive.
All of us have suffered from wounding in the past. Events occurred that managed to leave a negative imprint on our minds. We carry these wounds and allow them to dictate to us, to influence us. We allow it because we are Unaware of it.
If we want to be at our best, to achieve our goals, and live our dreams… We must heel these wounds, come into our light. We help our client’s by triggering the process. A process to find themselves and enable them to transform themselves into naturally attractive men. To ultimately have the desired women in their lives. This is what we do and we are proud of it!
We hold regular dating workshops and bootcamps. We also have a range of private coaching options. Check them out on the website today.
Every guy I meet through my work as a dating coach has something in common. He is not satisfied with his love life. He wants to learn how to meet more women and create stronger connections. He wants to know how to approach, what to say, and how to act to facilitate a good first impression…
Now – I have a few friends that are incredible with women. Unfortunately they fail to understand why other guys struggle. In other words, they don’t understand what the issue is. There advice would be to “just toughen up – be a man and go for it – and if it doesn’t work out, try again – and if that fails. Move on.” Sounds so simple doesn’t it?
I was out the other night with a good friend of mine. We went to a well known club in Sydney. Now this guy is superb with women. He is like a walking magnet and attracts attention where ever he goes. He can even give me a run for my money… Well sometimes. (jokes)
Not only does my friend approach women, but women also approach him.
We are having a drink by the bar and he says to me “Col, see all those guys standing around checking out the girls – they might as well go home if they plan on picking up, they look so unhappy and needy.” “Why don’t you go over and show them how it’s done?” I laughed and told him to mind his business and finish his drink. He then begins to tell me that there is probably nothing I could do to help them anyway.
Now keep in mind that this guy is a true natural with women. His had amazingly gorgeous girlfriends and always has other girls hanging around hoping they will be next. Is he arrogant? Yes! But… Does he have the slightest clue about why he is so successful? Most likely, the answer is no.
The comments that he made to me about not been able to teach them anything and help them out… I asked what he meant by that.
Carefully read his answer – it’s full of gold and typical of the true natural’s outlook.
My friend goes on to tell me that they these guys look desperate. They are totally focused on scoring for the night. He says “they don’t even know how to have fun with their friends.” He explains that even if I gave them some magic pick up lines and things to talk about, they would be so focused on trying to get the girls to like them that it would just scare them off faster.
My friends words, not mine…
Now as I stated, my friend is very successful, but he does not consciously know how he does it. He just has fun in the moment and creates his own luck. He has a vibe. And it’s this vibe that draws women in. In his mind he is successful is because he is able to have fun while expecting that women will join in. He doesn’t feel the need to try.
You see, men that are unsuccessful with women don’t know how to have fun without them. On some level they are always looking to get attention and impress. They need a woman’s approval. This neediness is what ultimately pushes them away.
Men want to learn the so called “secrets” but there are none. What you do and say to a woman will not attract her. Its how you live with yourself that determines your success.
This article is full of little nuggets of gold. Think hard about the content… It could be the realisation that you need.
Day Game Dating is making it’s mark on the personal development industry, and we are partnering up with other coaches to further develop our skills and understandings of psychology.
Personally I spend hours studying social science and self development principles, and currently I am working through a degree specialising in counselling and behaviour. This is something that I do for myself to allow for a greater knowledge and deeper understanding into what makes us tick.
I find it fascinating and I love it! For our coaches and clients, it allows for a much higher standard of training.
Self discovery is an ongoing process. Once you have mastered a certain area of your life and cultivated a skill… It’s time to look for the next task to conquer and begin with a new plan. This is what constant improvement is all about. Constantly improving…
As a business specialising in dating coaching, Day Game Dating must grow. We must constantly revise our material and improve our knowledge. And… We must look to partner up and align. Align with coaches in other industries and share information. This is a way to guarantee the best coaching for our clients.
I will talk more about this in the future, but know that we are merging into coaching partnerships. Day Game Dating’s Prime focus is still on the art of picking up women, but now we will have further tools at our disposal. It’s very exciting times. I will keep you updated.
I thought I would write a little bit about something called a “learning curve”.
It’s always fascinated me how we as human beings learn and master new skills. The reason that I find this subject so interesting is mainly due to the fact that I myself love learning.
I believe that understanding about “learning curves” is extremely helpful to any person attempting to master something new… And improving your skills with women is no different.
When it comes to picking up women, most men want the pick-up lines and impressive moves. They believe that this is what’s needed to see them through. And that’s understandable… You don’t know what you don’t know.
Only when you get out there and really hit this hard, do you realize how much deeper this subject is. It becomes apparent that it’s not so much about the words and actions…It’s more about sorting out internal baggage and removing limiting beliefs.
At this point the work has begun and the first step to mastery with women taken. Be cautious though as noticeable improvement can be slow- especially during those early days… When you’re on a journey doing both doing the internal work and out in the field… Most of the time it can feel like you’re just not improving. This is normal!
When learning a new skill, there can be long periods of frustration and you feel like you just aren’t progressing. Hell, sometimes you even feel like you are going backwards and regressing.
Reading articles, keeping a journal and hanging out with like minded individuals can definitely help to speed up the process and minimise frustration.
When our client’s attend our programs, their confidence and skill level will spike due to the intense nature of the sessions. But we know from experience that the road to mastery is ultimately a journey that is fuelled by strong desire, persistence and support. You need to stick at it and take advantage of any help offered along the way.
It’s a downside of human nature to want the results without putting in the effort. Most people want something for nothing.
Like everybody else, I also want things, financial freedom, success etc. At times I to have looked for shortcuts and immediate results. This has never lead me to my desired outcome. Its only when I began to realise that any worthwhile achievement takes time and ongoing effort, did I start to make progress.
Now when I make up my mind to achieve something, I plan carefully and take massive persistent action. This is the sure way to win!
• Do I get instant long-term results? Not usually.
• Does progress seem slow or non-existent? Yes, mostly during the early stages.
• Do I keep going forward regardless of challenges and setbacks? Always!!
When attempting to learn something new, master a skill and attain some type of success, it will seem like the whole world is against you… The more effort you seem to put in, the more setbacks occur.
“THIS IS THE TIME WHERE YOU’RE PERSISTENT NATURE AND DETERMINATION IS TESTED. DO YOU REALLY WANT IT BADLY ENOUGH AND ARE YOU WILLING TO WORK THROUGH AND FIND A WAY?”
The path to success can be slow and painful, but the rewards well worth it!
Remember this article in times of frustration and challenge… Always keep moving forward!
Are you enjoying reading the articles on this blog? I truly hope so; I seriously spend a large amount of time ensuring that the articles I write will help you become the best that you can be… If you want to know how to get a girlfriend or simply date a bunch of women – It’s your choice. As long as you’re upfront and honest about it, I’m with you all the way!
I always attempt to update The ‘Day Game Dating’ Blog weekly, (even if it doesn’t always work out that way) and I talk about all sorts of topics that I experience with clients during the week. Points I believe will be of benefit to the wider audience. I will also post inside information on upcoming events and what our team is up to. Hopefully you are finding it interesting.
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It was that time of the week where I had scheduled myself to sit down and write another article for the ‘Day Game Dating’ Blog. When brain storming some topics and working through some ideas that could help the men out there reading this, I decided on TWO things. The first would be to discuss the type guy of that is MASSIVELY successful with women. The second would be to throw in a shameless plug-in for our company, just so you really understand how much thought and detail we put into our dating courses. So let’s get started!
Most Guys
There is nothing more incredible for a guy to finally develop the skill set to be able to consistently cold approach women and receive positive responses. If you really think about it, then truly this is a remarkable achievement. In my mind there are “FOUR” types of men that you see out there. The “FIRST” type of man has no confidence in his ability to approach women, and so he never acts. He will usually look at a woman from afar and spend his time wondering what could have been. The “SECOND” type has moved past his fear of approaching, as in walking up and initiating something with a woman. This is not the issue. Where he fails is with his responses. Women just don’t react well to him. These lack of positive responses prevent him from having any potential success. Then you have the “THIRD” type of guy. This guy knows how to approach women and when he does begin and interaction, the women are usually receptive to him and respond well. So over time he develops great social skills when it comes to initiating new friendships. You see even though this guy is confident and attractive to women, he simply does not go past the point where things move onto a physical level. (Again I am talking on a consistent basis.) Then you have the “FOURTH” guy, the successful and consistent guy. And this is the guy I would like to talk about.
The “Fourth” Guy
Not only is this guy confident in approaching and receiving positive responses, but he is also able to take his interactions with women and move them past the friendship zone and into, what I call ”THE LOVER ZONE.” This is the guy at the bar who after a few minutes into his approach is already physically advancing. This would usually include, hugging, dancing, grinding and kissing. From the woman’s point of view, she is clear on his intentions and happy to accept his advances. So what is it that separates guy number “four” from the rest of the pack, why is he so successful?
This is now the part of the article where the shameless self promotion comes in for Day Game Dating. It’s all worth it though as it’s important that you understand this next point. We are a company that teaches our clients the subtleties of success with women that will eventually allow you to have the same results as guy number “four”. I don’t believe that most people even recognize them and therefore can’t explain it. By the way, all our coaches are able to go live into the field and demonstrate everything taught. Once you see it, you will believe that anything is possible!!
What are some of the traits that allow for this type of success?
Well for starters, this guy knows himself, what he is about and WHY he is valuable as a man. As a part of this he recognizes that what he is offering to a woman is valuable and that she largely benefits. Operating under the assumption that both him and her will win, he becomes extremely clear with his intentions, what he wants out of the interaction and what he is willing to give in return. This allows for clarity on his part and the minimisation of pointless thinking and waisted energy. In other words, he is prepared and operating on instinct. He has purpose! This clarity and purpose removes self doubt and enables a SEDUCTIVE level of communication. Not only is this HIGHLY attractive to women, but it also allows him to take control and move things forward. He is now choosing the direction of the interaction. Women want a man that is a good communicator, but most importantly has a strong sense of self. A man who likes himself and is comfortable in his own skin. This is the essence of guy number “four”.
I have briefly described something that is common to all men who are successful with women. All our coaches exhibit these traits, but most importantly have the ability to pass on the knowledge and teach them. We are a dating coaching company that demonstrates to our clients how to go further with women and reach higher levels of success. If you have not been getting the types of women that you feel you deserve, I STRONGLY suggest you look into one of our courses.
I hope you are able to grasp the importance of becoming this “fourth” type of guy and finally get this part of your life handled.
Hi guys (and girls I notice who are now reading my blog. Superb!)
It’s always longer than I would like between posts and so again I would like to apologise. Let’s just say that I’ve had more time to prepare and make it really juicy. Cheers to that!! I’m very passionate about human behaviour and what makes us tick. I would like to discuss it here in this post and hopefully get you thinking.
I am particularly interested in the social side of things and specifically what it is that results in people becoming popular, well liked and respected. It’s apparent to me that the man who masters this part of his life will be well on his way to succeeding with women. Why the two go hand in hand is a detailed topic on its own and best left for another post, but trust me when I tell you that the two are closely related.
When we seek out social alliances we are always searching for people who will ultimately enrich our lives. This could be somebody who can help us to make more money, increase our social status or simply make us feel good. This much is a given. We are somewhat selfish in our motives in choosing who to spend our time with. This can be a good thing though… Especially when this is a healthy alliance where both parties are benefiting. Where things tend to go pair shaped is when one person is seeking the company of another but in turn is not offering anything themselves. Perhaps a common situation where this occurs would be a guy trying to pick up a girl. He is doing everything to get her interested but failing to offer anything of real value. And this is what I want to hit on. VALUE.
This is definitely an issue that occurs often, but and here is the big BUT, it’s not always the fault of the guy who does this. It’s not that he doesn’t have value, but rather he fails to recognise his value and communicate it. This is something major that’s missing with a lot of guys. They don’t feel like they are offering something of value to the girl. They work under the FALSE premise that this is a one sided thing and that trying to pick her up is only benefiting him. Operating like this causes lots of self sabotaging behaviours. A guy doesn’t think he is offering anything of value and so he doesn’t come across as valuable.
It’s like in selling where a salesman is trying to sell a product or service but doesn’t really believe it’s a good deal for the customer. It’s a one sided thing and the salesman is just trying to get something for nothing. (In this case the commission.) He doesn’t really believe that the prospect will benefit and so has a weak intent in trying to convince them to buy. The prospect picks up on this and feels uncomfortable. Think of this in terms of the girl your interacting with. You’re trying to move things forward with her but you doubt you’re a good catch. She feels this doubt and backs away.
This is where a lot of inner work and preparation is needed so that you recognise that when it comes to meeting women that you do have value and she is also benefiting. When you get to the point of realizing that you are adding value to her life when you meet, you will come across very differently in your interactions. Women will pick up on this and in turn seek to have you in their company. Remember, because human beings are all looking for something of value.
It’s vital that you get to the point where you see yourself as an equal part of the deal and it’s not just about getting something for nothing. You are adding value and the woman is benefiting. True healthy alliances are always a two way street where both parties are receiving something in return. Before this can occur, personal value must be recognised by EACH individual so it can be expressed and accepted.
If you would like to find our more about this and where to begin. ‘Day Game Dating’ offers Private Coaching specifically tailored to suit your needs and fast track your improvement. Feel free to contact us.
Welcome to 2010. I hope your’e New Years Eve plans went off with a bang and it was a celebration of another 12months well done!
I for one had a blast and even though I only managed to get into bed at 4am, I wrote my new year’s resolutions and set my goals before going to sleep. Hopefully you have done the same???
Recently I have been doing a lot of thinking on picking up women and the importance of having high standards and qualifying. I still feel that a lot of men are still failing in this area. So I have decided to write the first article for 2010 on this vital topic. Enjoy;
Having High Standards & Qualifying Women
You really have to stop selling yourself short! Even if you have not had the kind of success with women that you feel could give you the right to have standards… This is bad thinking. So get that out of your head! It’s so key that you qualify women to ensure they meet your criteria. And in speaking of having standards and qualifying, you must decide exactly what these standards are and write them down. This is your reference for qualifying. It’s your life and as far as we know you may only get one decent shot at this. (living that is). I urge you to demand the best for yourself and begin having expectations and qualifying.
Most men will find themselves in situations with women where they are only allowing her to qualify him. Not only is the occurring, but these men have no standards to assert so they are willing to take whatever they can get. They open themselves up to been judged and ultimately rejected. It’s a vicious cycle that repeats.
Always remember this. If a man has no standard and will take what he can get, a woman will sense this and judge him on it as having low value. She will find this unattractive and ultimately reject him. If you have fallen into this trap then you must correct this immediately.
You need standards because you need to qualify! Women need to see you qualify so you prove to be a man who has self worth and value. Having value causes women to feel attracted and this will lead to success. She needs this! The more success, the higher your standards and the more a woman will find you attractive. This leads to and increase in success and again this becomes a cycle that repeats. This is the better path to be on!!
‘Day Game Dating‘ is an Australian company that goes deeply into the psychology of attraction and how to become the type of man that women desire. We coach you through a process to cultivate a personality and mindset that allows for these vital traits (such as having standards) to naturally occur. We also take things out into the real world and show you step-by-step how to meet women and qualify them live, infield, after approaching and successfully engaging. We have been operating since 2006 and are now in our 4th year of operation. Having coached 100’s upon 100’of men, we have developed and streamlined an effective strategy to see you reach your dating goals.
2010 is a new year, a new decade and a fresh new start for us all. If you dont have much experience with women and dating, or you are out their regularly and just looking to tweak up your skills and get to that next level, its worth looking into one of our training courses. We have something for everybody.
Again, happy New Year and the best of luck for 2010.
Hey, I am about to head out for my New Year’s Celebrations so this will be my last post for 2009.
I would like to start off by saying a huge “thank you” to all of the staff at ‘Day Game Dating’. “Kelly” for all of your hard work in organising all of the events, dealing with the IT guys and liaising with all of our wonderful clients. (Oh and the other 1000 jobs you do. I couldn’t have done it without you!) To our wonderful Operations manager “Sam”. My friend, my business associate and my biggest critic. lol. To my loyal coaches “John”, “Craig” and “Steve”. You guys rock! And you have been a major inspiration to us all!
Finally I want to thank all of our wonderful clients. You know who you are! You guys give us the inspiration to get up in the morning and continue on our mission to help more and more men get their dating lives sorted. We are a team at ‘Day Game Dating’ and it does not matter what role you play from employee to client. You’re an important part of the organisation!!
I would like to wish you all a wonderful and safe New Year. 2010 is a time for a new start and to continue on your journey of self improvement. Take care my friends and we will see you all in soon
All the best.
Perhaps you have heard of Alex Coulson-Australian Dating Coach. Alex is the guy that you may have seen on “You Tube” making all those live videos of himself approaching women.
A few months ago Alex and I did a live video recording where he interviewed me on what is called “Inner-Game.” Now as you may know, I’ve never really been involved much with the whole pick up women community thing, but it was interesting to get a bit of insight into some of the terms they use.
For example, what I have been calling “Inner- Work” and “Self Awareness”, they have termed “Inner- Game.” Regardless of the difference in name, the focus is the same. Improve yourself as a man from the inside first to become a lot more sexually attractive to women.
Go and check out the video of us chatting about this important topic when it comes to women and dating. The video is FREE and highly educational. There is about 40 minutes of footage and its well worth it. You can see it here on the front page of my website Day Game Dating.
